When someone you care about suffers a bereavement, it can be hard to find the right words. You want to write a sympathy message that is comforting, sincere and compassionate, but it feels like no words can express how you feel at this difficult time. Whether you're after a short condolence message for a colleague, or something longer and more heartfelt, we've created a list of sincere and meaningful sympathy messages to inspire you. There's also a helpful guide on how to structure a sympathy message and some things to avoid.
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Short Condolence Messages
- Thinking of you at this sad time
- With deepest sympathy
- You and your family are in my thoughts
- So sorry for your loss
- My heart goes out to you at this difficult time
- I love you and am so sad that you're going through this.
Heartfelt Condolence Messages
- Losing someone so close is so hard. I will be here to support you at any time and any hour. Sending you so much love.
- Be kind and gentle with yourself. Take your time and know that you have my full support.
- May all your wonderful memories comfort you during this heart-breaking time.
- Words cannot express how saddened we are to learn of your loss. Please take your time. We are all here for you.
- I’m so deeply sorry for your loss. Please know that my heart aches for you and your family during this unimaginable time of grief.
- I don’t know what to say, I wish I had the right words to comfort you.
- She was so wonderful, she’ll be missed by so many people
Messages Offering Help After a Bereavement
- Thinking of you during this difficult time. If you ever want to talk, I’m here.
- I can’t begin to imagine the pain you’re feeling, but I’m here to support you in any way I can.
- If you need someone to talk to or a helping hand, don’t hesitate to reach out. I’m just a call or text away.
- You’re not alone during this difficult time. I’m here for you.
- I'm available for grocery deliveries, kid pickups, babysitting, making dinner, listening,—whatever you need.
How to structure your sympathy message
- Send your condolences within the first few weeks if you can.
- Begin with a heartfelt and kind welcome, e.g. 'To my dear friend Annie'
- Express your condolences
- Offer support or help (this could range from listening or coffee to practical help such as cooking food, help with childcare or funeral arrangements)
- If it feels appropriate, you could include a nice memory of the deceased, or say how much they will be missed.
- Sign off with your name, e.g. 'Sending love and well wishes at this difficult time, (followed by your name)'
- Be genuine, kind and sincere.
- Avoid clichés that may come across as insensitive. Never say anything like "They're in a better place and there's no more pain" or "everything happens for a reason."
- Focus on the recipient, do not make your sympathy message about yourself. Don't say "I know how you feel" or talk about your own experiences with loss.
- Use a tone that conveys your support, understanding and compassion. Remember that the most important thing is to be sincere and speak from the heart.
